The Who’s Who Of Wedding Tasks

Organising a wedding can be stressful but also fun, especially if the work is split between everyone involved in the wedding preparations.

The Couple

A couple's first task is to announce their enegagement and then organise an engagement party. It can be anything from a formal cocktail party at a hotel ballroom to a relaxed barbecue at home. Ideally it should be held about three months after the engagement is announced. If you have only six months until the wedding, then the party should be organised within one month.

The Bride

Most of the bride’s tasks are exciting! Firstly your will need to choose your bridal party and make an initial guest list with your parents. Choose and order the invitations and other wedding stationery and accessories. Choosing your wedding dress is a very important task so make sure you take your time! Also select your shoes, accessories, and lingerie. Consult with your bridesmaids about their dresses. Select your florist and order the flowers for bouquets, buttonholes, corsages, ceremony and reception decorations.

The Groom

The groom should organise the transport for himself and the bride after the reception, arrange the honeymoon and organise the payment of church fees and wedding venue fees. The groom should help his bride-to-be in her preparations, however there is also a list of things that the bride and groom should do together. This includes choosing the date and time of the wedding, the reception venue and the theme for the wedding, choosing the wedding rings, finalising the guest list and making a seating plan.

The Bride’s Mother

While the main tasks for the bride’s mother are to assist the bride, arrange post wedding invitations and organise the accommodation for out-of-town guests, the bride's mother is also the one who informs all the relevant people of their duties.

The Matron of Honour

The matron of honour has a long list of responsibilities and among other things, she must help the bride and her mother, ensure children are safe, take care of the bride’s gown and organise transport for gifts after the reception. Traditionally, she should help the bride to dress, precede her to the venue and stand to the left behind her.

The Best Man

The best man also has an extensive list of duties from assisting the groom and organising the buck’s party to taking care of the chief bridesmaid at the reception. He should also help with anything that needs to be done after the reception.

The Bride’s Father

The bride’s father’s main role is to accompany his daughter to the ceremony and escort her down the aisle to the groom, but he should also make sure that all the gifts are stored safely and ensure that the guests are comfortable. 

The Bridesmaids & Groomsmen

The bridesmaids and groomsmen should assist both the bride and groom and their families and help organise junior attendants. Bridesmaids will often read out good wish messages from out-of-town guests at the reception. Groomsmen are to look after the bridesmaid they have been partnered with. If there are no ushers, groomsmen are usually required to escort guests to their seats at the wedding venue.

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