Bridesmaids Problem

Anon M

15 December 2014, 12:11 PM

So I have a bit of a dilemma.

I have asked 4 friends to be my BMs - all are very excited to be a part of my day which is great.

A couple of them are trying to get pregnant, but had told me (without even asking them) that they would be stopping trying so that they were no more than 6-7 months pregnant at the wedding or that their baby would be 3-4 months old.

I was told by one of my BMs that she was pregnant and due at start of July. However, when she went for her scan she's actually due a few months before my wedding.

This wouldn't be such an issue if she hadn't had a pretty bad labour with first bubs which ended in an emergency c-section. They have told her that they want her to try natural this time, but she's pretty certain she'll end up with a c-section.

This throws up a few unknowns - she lives regionally which means for the 6 weeks after bubs is born she will not be able to drive and therefore won't be able to make it to things like dress fittings and potentially the hen's party. There's also the facts such as what happens if bubs isn't is as good as her first, bubs won't take a bottle and she'll be really sleep deprived.

I am quite an organised person, she is more of "fly by the seat of your pants" person and probably hasn't though of these things.

I don't want to be an overbearing bridezilla, but I also don't want any surprises a couple of weeks before my wedding.

What do I do?

#1
Nicky H

16 December 2014, 9:53 AM

Explain to her what your concerns are and that she can still be part of the party just not as a bridesmaid.

#2
Claire W

16 December 2014, 10:40 AM

Celebrate her pregnancy with her and let her dictate what she wants to do and when. Being involved and supportive throughout her pregnancy and birth is far more important your hen's night or some dress fittings. Focus on being a good friend to her, not just a bride.

#3

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